Why give up? I understand the disappointment. But, when you are there you find some solitude in going. Enjoy the moment. If this is true, that he is married, then this will be your chance to move on and start seeing other sin a reall way instead of worrying about J.Maybe seeing someone who isn't a regular or guest of the club might help as well.Just trying to help a little. Maybe didn't help much, but atleast you know I'm here and I hear ya!